Wednesday, March 12, 2014

No Easy Way


Now tell me if you know a single person who hasn’t failed yet. Have you ever encountered a student who never failed in an exam in his whole life? What about a story character who won all the time? Ever heard of a story without twists? Yung tipong happy ending agad. Well, probably not. That’s the point – life would not be called life if it does not have lessons. And lessons would never exist without mistakes. Let’s sum it up: You can’t win all the time. That probably is the art of losing. Let us face it, most of us are afraid to commit mistakes, most of us are afraid to lose something. Most of us as much as possible don’t want to fail. But the inevitable truth is, just what I’ve said a while ago: You can’t win all the time. That’s probably a good thing. Just imagine watching a story of a man who went through his whole life on an endless winning streak. That would be boring for sure. There is the fact behind this: all winners don’t grow for they don’t learn anything.

People face different kinds of failures. May it be failing in a test, having a fight with your friend and even having your heart broken. These are just some from the numerous kinds failures. But why are people afraid to fail? According to knowmyself.com, fear of failure is like any other type of fear, it’s an emotion generated by your subconscious mind in order to protect you from problems. Because some people have got much less tolerance to failure they always experience fear of failure, while others don’t. The reason behind this tolerance may be caused by lack of understanding of the success mechanism, being unable to tolerate the underlying emotions. These emotions could be shame, guild, or any emotion after they fail. Fear of making mistakes. Some people fear making mistakes to the extent that they quit trying just not to make a mistake in front of others. In this case, the fear of failure may be caused by lack of self confidence. In this case, the fear of failure may be caused by lack of self confidence. People who are emotionally sensitive, who fear rejection and those who lack self-confidence are more likely to be afraid of failure than others.

Failure will be and will always be a part of life. Thus, the only better way is to befriend it. Failure is just a message telling you that you have to try doing the same thing in a different way. Overcoming it may start by changing your beliefs about failure. No one has ever reached the top without failing several times. Build you self-confidence. Remember: having a better version of you starts from within. Give yourself a hand.

These are a hundred ways to kill a chicken. What I’m trying to say is, if you fail once, it doesn't mean you shouldn't try anymore. Failing means you could do better. Failing means learning from your past. There are no lost opportunities if you are always searching for alternatives. Delete the thought that you should win all the time. Here’s a simple thought: the ones who don’t fail, are pretty empty. Let life’s disappointments create a better version of you. Look forward to the ways loss will you change. Believe that the best is yet to come. And if those useless feedback keep dragging you down, bear this in mind: Failures would never ever define you truly are. So cheer up!